Today, I had a beautiful conversation with my sister.
We reflected on how much our lives have changed since we began shifting our perspective, noticing how generous life truly is. And when we become aware of that, our whole perception starts to focus on what is being given to us, rather than on what feels missing or taken away.
It’s a shift from a mindset of lack to one of abundance.
We both noticed how many doors have opened since we stopped seeing ourselves as victims of past experiences, circumstances, or other people, and instead began asking what each encounter came to teach us.
In the end, it always comes down to one simple truth:
Either we reclaim our power, or we allow external situations, people, thoughts, or old habits to take control.
Do we let life bring us down, or do we allow it to make us stronger?
It means asking ourselves: What can I do in this moment?
Often, the answers are right in front of us, but we don’t trust ourselves.
We’re afraid, of failing, of losing something, of not being good enough. These fears are rooted in the ways we learned to see ourselves in the past.
And even today, we move through life still connected to those old beliefs, relating to the world as we once did, without realizing it.
We often convince ourselves that there are no solutions, but the deeper question is: What are we actually afraid of?
Are the problems even real? Or are they projections of a fearful mind, telling us stories that aren’t necessarily true? Our entire life is shaped by the assumptions we hold about how things are, or how we believe they are not.
A situation is just a situation. It only gains weight or meaning through the lens we’re looking through.
So we must ask: What assumptions are tied to the fears we carry?
What insecurities keep us from daring to choose for ourselves?
What beliefs stand in our way, holding us back from allowing ourselves to live our dreams, feel our desires, and finally make decisions that are true to who we really are?
I recently heard an interview with Tom Cruise that really struck me. He spoke about fear, saying:
“Don’t be so worried if you feel afraid. It’s okay, just keep working through it. Fear is the unknown. It’s what you don’t yet understand. Recognize that, and know it’s okay not to know. Move toward knowing, one step at a time.”
He explained how he trains himself and others:
“First, you learn to crawl. Then you walk. Then jog. Then run. Then sprint.”
A simple yet powerful image of growth:
It’s not about doing everything at once —
but about asking ourselves again and again: What can I invest in myself today?It’s not about perfection.
It’s about curiosity, presence, and self-care.
It’s about returning to ourselves,
gaining a new perspective,
and realizing that we are capable of so much more
when we understand:
We are not the identity we’ve carried with us all our lives.
The real question is: Who is the one identifying?What do I truly need to feel nourished, alive, and whole?
My sister told me a story that stayed with me.
She knew a family living in deep poverty. Their home was old, worn down. In an effort to “modernize” it, they broke down and burned the antique doors, cupboards, and a beautiful old tiled stove—unaware that these were rare, valuable pieces of craftsmanship. Only later did someone tell them what they had destroyed.
The treasure was right under their noses — yet they couldn’t see it.
Because they weren’t able to recognize what life was offering them.
They even destroyed what could have led to their abundance,
firmly believing it was worthless.
Because they saw it through the lens of lack —
not through the eyes of abundance.
She also shared another tale: a farmer, frustrated that nothing would grow on his rocky land, decided to sell it. A passing gemologist recognized the “rocks” as valuable gemstones and bought the property for a fair price. The farmer was relieved—but unknowingly walked away from a hidden fortune.
How many times do we do the same?
We think we lack what we need, when in truth, the treasure is already there. Right under our feet. Right within us.
But fear and self-doubt cloud our vision. We compare ourselves to others. We say, If only I were more like her. If only I had more talent. If only I looked different…
I lived like that for many years.
And yet—each of us has a unique path. As Einstein once said:
“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it’s stupid.”
He also said:
“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.”
We can’t solve our problems with the same thoughts that created them.
That’s why deep change begins not with action—but with awareness. We have to be willing to meet ourselves honestly, investigate our patterns, and reconnect with who we truly are.
For me, two teachers were life-changing:
Byron Katie taught me that I am not my wounded ego. Her Four Questions helped me unravel the beliefs that had kept me stuck.
Neville Goddard helped me understand the power of the subconscious mind—that everything I’ve experienced was shaped by the assumptions I carried. And that I could change it all, if I changed my inner conversation.
Why did I repeat the same cycles in love, work, and self-worth?
Not by chance. But through patterns that went unexamined.
Now, I examine them—and in doing so, I set myself free.
That’s why I feel so called to share what I’ve learned. Not because I have all the answers, but because I’ve walked the path. I’ve fallen. I’ve risen. I’ve found tools that helped me come home to myself.
And I know that if I could do it, so can you.
The treasure is already within you.
You don’t need to earn it, prove it, or chase it.
You just have to remember it.